My girlfriend ten years ago was from Ukraine. One parent was Russian and one was Ukrainian. This was very common making this current conflict somewhat like a civil war.
I have two Russian friends in Russia who feel shame about what Putin is doing. How long will Russian soldiers do Putin’s bidding? It’s easy to convince a soldier to kill an enemy who looks different and speaks a different language. But killing someone who is very similar to your own friends and family is not that easy.
Putin will end up being the big loser!